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“Mom, Dad, I have something to tell you, I am gay.”

A powerful combination of words many parents don’t ever want to hear, or like my friend Geanna said, she ‘dreaded” hearing after her beloved 11-year-old daughter, Jackie told her she thought she was transgender. “I feel stuck in this body that is not mine”, she had confided.

That was 16 years ago. And Jackie was her only daughter of four children.

Today, both Geanna and Jack are estranged and have not spoken to each other in years. Geanna simply couldn’t deal with it. She had dreams and plans for her beloved daughter, and the thought of losing her to something she did not know and understand was a bit too much.

Jack left home when he was 17 and has never come back.

In my case, I knew my sweet son was gay even before “he” turned 3. I had my suspicions but never said anything about it. When “he” turned 12, I approached the topic, and received an “I am not sure”, but, at the age of 16 “he” finally came out officially.

However, last summer they came out as non-binary, and somehow that affected me a lot more than I care to admit. I struggled with using the right pronouns and worried about their safety even more with the prevalence of homophobia.

While we are thriving, I know there are many parents like dear Geanna who struggled with raising her child. This PDF is a list of 10 things that helped me as I navigated my way over the years, and I hope you can find some answers in my words…

Peace Still.
Dr. Lulu, Pediatrician, Coach, Mom.
About Dr. Lulu
Dr. Lulu in red suit.
Dr. Lulu aka the Momatrician is a retired pediatrician and mom of a non-binary young adult. She is a speaker, best selling author, and suicide prevention activist.

A former Lt. Col and commander in the US Air Force who currently works with parents of Queer and Out LGBTQ+ youth. She coaches them on how to accept, understand and support their children.  

Dr. Lulu speaks publicly on parenting, childhood trauma, LGBTQ+ acceptance and youth suicide prevention. She has been featured on local, national, and international television including the syndicated CBS This Morning with Gayle King.

Dr. Lulu is the bestselling author of How to Teach Your Children About Racism, and all her books are available on Amazon, Barnes and Noble, and anywhere great books are sold. Her most recent book is an anthology by 22 immigrant women, called The Warrior Women Project.

She has been featured in The Washington Post, Parents Magazine, Kevin MD, BlackPast.org, Black Parenting Magazine and other media outlets.

She can be reached at www.dr-lulu.com,@askdoctorlulu on Instagram and Facebook and on TikTok @Dr. Lulu. Email: Coach@dr-lulu.com